every child has a song

May 5, 2009 at 3:29 am 3 comments

There’s a tribe in Africa that counts the
birthday of a child from the day the child is a thought in its mother’s mind. On that day, a woman goes out and sits under
a tree and quietly listens and waits until she can hear the song of her child. When she has heard the song, she returns to her
village and teaches it to the man whom she has envisioned as the child’s father, so that they can sing the song when they
make love, inviting their child to join them.

The expectant mother then sings this song to the child in her womb and teaches it to the midwives, who sing it when
the child is born. And the villagers all learn the child’s song, so that whenever the child cries or hurts itself, they pick it
up, hold it in their arms, and sing the song. The song is also sung when the young man or woman goes through a rite of
passage, when he or she marries, and then, for a last time, when he or she is about to die.

What a beautiful way for human beings to listen to and to comfort other human beings. This is the spirit of conscious
parenting, to listen to the song of the child in front of you and to sing that child’s song to him or her. When a child is
crying, we need to ask why this child is singing the crying song, what pain or frustration this child is feeling.

Jack Kornfield

this girl sings of…
*woodpeckers (during pregnancy I saw 7 in one tree and see them most every day when I walk with her.)
*devouring every morsel
*the joy of movement (she is officially walking, as of today!)
*power and strength
*boldly going after whatever her heart desires
*expressing her whole self for all the world to delight in
*nakey nake (clothes are no fun at all)
*fearless eye contact with anyone willing
*facing outward, won’t miss a thing
*always close, close, close…connecting fully, always.

oh sweet saschy-girl. we are so glad you are here.

What is your child’s song?


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3 Comments Add your own

  • 1. ggw_bach  |  May 5, 2009 at 4:56 am

    🙂 I know my brother and sister manifested their personalities quite early in life. And me too, going by what my mother tells me. We all hear a different song, wake up with a different attitude. Personality plus.

  • 2. Romy  |  May 5, 2009 at 6:50 pm

    Sascha walks! That is so wonderful….congratulations to you and her.

  • 3. Grandma Linda  |  May 6, 2009 at 9:43 pm

    Happy walking Sascha! Life will never be the same.


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