time outs are bad for children

February 18, 2009 at 4:46 am Leave a comment

The research is mounting and the rationale is clear. When you send a child to time out, they experience a withdrawl of your love. They learn that they are only love-able sometimes, rather than unconditionally. Time outs are never appropriate.

If you create an unshakable relationship with your child, there is nothing he can do that you can’t talk through and learn from. Without shame. Without punishment. Without emotional trauma.

Love your child with reckless abandon. Talk about your feelings when she acts in ways that aren’t working for others or herself. Explain reality in neutral terms.


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